I lost three dear friends this month. They were all very good men who had lived their lives in the pure passion and zeal they deserved and had built around themselves a comforting conscious mountain of warm friendship and with it a catchment of everlasting  love. But even in my fond remembrance of my dear friends I suffer, as I feel for their life partners left behind singular in their impervious loneliness. And they suffer more , suffer long , suffer silent. And I then ask myself why this cruel suffering ? Why so soon? Why not later? Why at all? And strangely then I begin to realize, that suffering does forces us to face ourselves inwardly, defenseless and exposed as there is no immediate remedy to suffering but to submit to its imperious demand for complete awareness. Suffering is the just an awaken-er and the only adequate response is to be fulfilled in its awakening.

But when we suffer , we seek remedies , we look for an escape from suffering.  These various escapes are completely ineffective , mere concepts which help us to forget ourselves temporarily as long as we are busy in their construction , but are unable to uncover the deep and permanent roots of sorrow. To me it is only when we do not turn our eyes away from the suffering , when we open ourselves entirely to its cleaning rays , it can complete its task and disappear spontaneously, without leaving any residue. And then even time shall not hide in her unblemished efforts.

  Yes our way to liberation from suffering does lies through the suffering itself. Suffering is but intense clarity of thoughts and feelings which make you see things just as they need to be seen, and gives immeasurable strength in perceived loneliness. And as these lonely suffering widows would not like to change anything beautiful in the light of the setting sun , or the shape of the magnificent tree in the green tranquil field , or their loving life’s memorable journey we too should not put obstacles in their way of suffering. Allow it to ripen, for with its flowering comes clear true mutation. When you become aware of  the wound of sorrow , without the reaction of acceptance, resignation or negation , suffering itself lights the flame to a fuller more sublime understanding of life.